Sunday, 1 June 2014

LIFE IS A ROLLER COASTER

First a quick update on the cycling before we enter the philosophical corner. I've planned my route all the way to Sydney, where to stop etc. Now I'm just messaging people, asking if I can stay for the night. Also need to buy some winter tights, because it's getting really cold now. The highest temperature today was 15 degrees and next weekend the forecast said around 2-3 degrees at night. Winter is here. So setting off Tuesday morning to Mildura. Plan is to be in Sydney by the 18th of June.

Anyhoodle...

Fate, universe, life, tea and everything in between - How straight forward is the roller coaster called life?

I'm a firm believer of the power of universe and fate. Even more so after these last few months. That if you really put your mind to something, to find that personal legend or dream, the universe will help make it happen. Because when you're working towards you're dreams, there's very little that can stop you. Everything else becomes secondary.

Take control. Make a choice. Just decide who you're going to be, how you're going to be and what you're going to be. After that the universe will bend to your will.

"Everything you can imagine is real"- Pablo Picasso

You need to know who you are. You need to know your dream. The only thing limiting you is you.


Life ain't easy. It can hit you hard in the face and hurt you. But at the same time it can be one of the most magnificent things ever to have been created. I've been blessed and have a good life. Of course there's been some bad times, but all in all I'm pretty satisfied. Travelling often makes you realise how fortunate you are. How lucky you are. It teaches you not to take things for granted.

Often people base their definition of happiness on what society dictates, the social conventions of the time. It could be anything from having a perfect job, in order to pay for a two bedroom house, to spending X-amounts of money on Christmas presents. Go back 400 years and some places it would have been having a big farm and many sons.

You need to find your own definition of happiness. Never settle until you find it. Stop wasting your time living someone else's life. One day you'll wake up and regret not having pursued your dream. 

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." - Søren Kierkegaard

Trying to predict life and understand your choices NOW, is like trying to put together a 10 000 piece puzzle with blindfolds. It would be very hard. You simply have to trust that somewhere along the line the dots will connect and you will have the biggest eureka moment ever. You have to trust that you will find a path. Life will force you to choose. To choose between two or more options. The choice itself might not be easy, but one thing is certain; you have to move forward in a direction, no matter which one.


“Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.” - Dr. Seuss

People, including myself, have a tendency to ask themselves one of the most dangerous questions a person can ask themselves: What if...? What if I had accepted that job offer? What if I had got in the car one hour earlier? What if I had stayed put and not left the country? A question starting with what if can drive you absolutely insane. It makes you over-think decisions, past, present and future. It makes you re-evaluate everything and think about what could have been. Don't. I know it's hard, but you have to avoid asking yourself that question. Because guess what? That is one of the questions in life you probably never will find an definite answer to.

I would rather say I regret doing that instead of I regret not doing that. 

“The Man who says he can, and the man who says he can not... Are both correct” - Confucius

Society tells you to be realistic. Why would you be realistic? It will get you one place; mediocrity. It will not get you anywhere in life being realistic. You create a barrier in-front of yourself for no good reason.
However, the minute you decide to do something, it's done. That decision is all you need to propel you forward. Mediocrity and realism belongs one place; with other people and in the past.
Humans in a metal tube, in cushioned seats, crossing the Atlantic... Now THAT'S unrealistic. It didn't stop the Wright brothers (and others) in taking off. Humans flying into space, let alone live there, is unrealistic. Didn't stop NASA and ISS (International Space Staion). If everyone was realistic and "followed the norm", humanity wouldn't be where it is today. It would be stuck.

Point is; life if full of potential unrealistically decisions, ideas and dreams. It's up to you if you're going to be a realist and build a big wall in-front of yourself or if you're going to defy that and excel.



"The only thing we have to fear is fear itself." - Franklin D. Roosevelt

Fear is a thing you can train yourself to let go off. Your inner fears and worries. Fear of failure, even fear of success. Let them go. It ain't easy and certainly you won't be able to do it every situation. But gradually you learn to let go of the control and fear and just go with the flow.

In the picture above you see 90% of possessions that I travelled to Auckland with when I became unemployed and homeless back in November. The other 10% of my stuff I had in a shopping bag in my right hand. I arrived in Auckland and whilst working on a farm, I started applying for jobs. After a week on the farm, I moved into a hostel in the city for nine days. Over those nine days I handed out over 90 CVs and applied for an additional 30 jobs online. I walked into one of Aucklands best pubs and got offered a trial shift. That evening, when I had my first shift, I only had $NZ 125 (£63 / 630kr) left in my account and two nights left in the hostel.

I learnt a few things from that experience. One, the kindness of strangers, everyone from the bus driver to the hostel receptionist. Two, that when you put your mind to something and let go of your fear, you can make things happen. You can find a job. You can find a place to stay. You can crawl out of hell.

Your dreams might not seem logical or even sane to your friend, parents and family. They might try and talk you out of it. They might not understand you. They might even get angry that you are doing something different. But guess what? That's THEIR fear. They fear it, because they never did it themselves.

Let go of your fear.



Tea. You might be wondering what a cup of tea has got to do with life, universe and fate. What on earth can possibly a cup of tea have got to do with this? It's small, warm and insignificant. Or is it?

It's not so much the tea itself that's important. Well, to some people (including myself) tea is almost an religion, but that's not my point here. What's important are the little things. Even the smallest things in life can change your life completely and show you a brand new path. Don't agree?

Up until February 2010 I was supposed to be a border patrol guard on the Norway-Russia border. The college I studied at had taken all the seniors to the annual educational fair in Oslo. Basically where all domestic and a wide range of international, universities pitch their courses. I was walking round, with no specific plan or school in mind, when I saw a picture. I saw a panoramic picture of this beautiful beach. I went over to the stand and ended up being invited back the following week to show my portfolio. Next week; accepted to the BA (hons) Digital Film and Television Productions course at Swansea Metropolitan University. The three years there changed my life completely in every single way possible. And all because of a picture of a beach.

So never underestimate the smaller things. They might just change your life.


Life is a roller coaster. It's full of ups and downs. It can go from absolutely terrible and soul destroying to magical and best thing ever. What's important to remember is this; you've got one ticket, don't waste it.

Will you always be able to follow these advises? Heck no! I probably won't be either. My future is not set, far from it, and I have probably have more random dots that needs connecting than a leopard. Don't have a full time job, no idea where I want to settle down. I mean, one part of me wants to keep travelling all over the world, one part wants to live in the UK and another part wants to live in Norway to stay close to family. I've got a plan, I do, but the reason I can't tell it to people is because I'm not sure about all of it yet. Yes parts of my plan might seem crazy and random, but the more I follow it the clearer it all gets. The only thing I know is that I need to keep moving forward. Cause if I stop, that's when realism and mediocrity kicks in. I can't have that. Never stop.

Ask yourself, right now; if you died tomorrow, is there anything you regret not having done?
Write that down on a list and if that list exceeds five things, it's time to change your life.


Meanwhile, while you contemplate the question above, listen to this great song by The Script.